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How do I know when
enough is enough?


When you go without checking in, what happens? Does your body communicate its truth to you? Does it get sick? Does it stop sleeping or start sleeping too much? Are there people who help ground you—who know your real person and whose presence calms you? How long does it usually take before you stop and jump off the merry-go-round? When you do, what are your gateways to self-care? How do you move out of the swirl and into the still?

There is no doubt that stillness brings clarity, but in this age of constant communication, being still and private is not the norm. We have the answers already. I find that a little “crisscross applesauce” with eyes shut is the easiest (and cheapest) way to uncover them. Then it’s like magic—that connection and that purpose come alive without effort.

What does it take for you to stop? Do you have a regular centering practice or do you go until something has to give? What helps you drop deeper into yourself—to then connect more presently and to work more purposely?

Holly Coltea owns two barre3 studio franchises in her hometown of Nashville, TN. She is passionate about whole body health and helping others discover pathways to wellness.

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6 Ponderings
  • Anonymous

    March 13, 2019 at 8:32 am

    I always go too far, push too much until I snap. It takes a crying meltdown for me to stop. My husband asks if we can’t be more proactive, if we can’t take measures to avoid the meltdown but somehow, despite good intentions, it doesn’t really work.

  • Anonymous

    March 13, 2019 at 8:34 am

    It’s interesting how our bodies register anxiety and try to send our brains messages. I do get sick when I get rundown. My shoulders are tight. I have noticed, in meditating, that even when I think I’m relaxed I’m not. My knees are often still tensed up and my hips tight. To really sunk into my body—out of my brain and into my body—takes so much time.

  • Anonymous

    March 13, 2019 at 8:36 am

    I have people who ground me but I have realized that it’s really all up to me whether I will get out of the swirl and into the still or not. It has to come from me. I love that phrase by the way. Maybe it can be a new mantra!

  • Anonymous

    March 13, 2019 at 6:47 pm

    I was reading the mid-week entry of the Brainpickings blog and a quote struck me as a propos of this week’s question. It’s from a 1934 book by a woman, Milner, titled A Life of One’s Own, in which she engaged in a prolonged personal experiment with how to unearth true happiness….”As soon as I began to study my perception, to look at my own experience, I found that there were different ways of perceiving and that the different ways provided me with different facts. There was a narrow focus which meant seeing life as if from blinkers and with the centre of awareness in my head; and there was a wide focus which meant knowing with the whole of my body, a way of looking which quite altered my perception of whatever I saw.”

  • Anonymous

    March 14, 2019 at 8:04 am

    First you have to clear your mind! Hard to do. I love hot tea and a pod cast. Once you turn it on you are captive. At the end of you you are calmer because you are taken some where else. It’s so much easier to then see more clearly what really matters.
    Summary is escape. Re enter and see if it looks the same.

  • Anonymous

    March 14, 2019 at 8:30 pm

    Ask for help. Invite others to let you know when you seem to have had enough. The ones closest to you will know before you will. Then be open to take time for self care. Remember the ways YOU re-charge your batteries and then care for yourself.