The Ponder Effect | What have I lost that I would like to get back?
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What have I lost that I would like to get back?

The answers to this question could take many different forms. Perhaps you have lost a tangible item that had great meaning or value to you. Perhaps you have lost something relating to your physicality, such as agility or hearing. Perhaps you have lost a relationship or simply lost touch with someone. Or perhaps you have lost a way of being in the world that you once had: a sense of wonder, for example, or an adventurous spirit.

Thinking back over the many stages of your life and who you were at any given time, what have you lost that you miss? Is there something that you can possibly regain? What would it take to recapture it? Or, are there things that you have had to let go of? Has anything meaningful or valuable arisen to fill that void in an unexpected way?

The act of remembering and naming those things that we have lost may help shed light on who we have been and who we are. Doing so may also help us move more deeply into who we can be.

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7 Ponderings
  • Anonymous

    March 24, 2019 at 8:50 pm

    My courage to ask for what I want and need. There is some fear behind this feeling of loss of which I know and understand. I am slowly getting my courage back though.

  • Anonymous

    March 25, 2019 at 11:44 am

    Oh dear, I have lived long enough to have lost so many things that I choose to focus on the things I have not lost. But it is interesting to stop and think about who I used to be, what and who were part of my life.
    When I first read this question I immediately thought of a ring I lost. It was given to my grandmother when my mother was born. That used to be a lovely tradition. To receive a piece of jewelry when a child was born. Anyway I wore it to a party and it slipped off sometime in the night.
    I have lost a lot of people who I love. Interestingly today is my mother’s birthday. I lost her physically years ago but I did not lose her. She is embedded in me. I will always love her and be thankful she was given to me.
    I have lost the ability to get up off the floor gracefully, the courage to jump on a trampoline and a lot of other physical stuff.
    I have lost interest in trying to be one of the prettiest at the party, or the thinnest. Actually I have lost interest in going to any of those big parties that I wouldn’t have missed when I was younger. These are losses to celebrate, not long for.
    I do miss “excuse me” in the grocery aisles and a sense that it’s a shared space.
    The thing I miss most is feeling as if I am not a vibrant part of the world now. And I said I would never be like this! Out of touch. But technology has pretty much left me struggling in a lot of dust.
    Last in my pondering, while I like the energy and activity of our “it” city I miss the essence and heart of the Nashville of my memories.

  • Anonymous

    March 25, 2019 at 2:27 pm

    I think we all can relate to this question…as i age I have lost the ability to move quickly and l am learning to live with some pain that happens from arthritis. But on the flip side I am gaining strength from depending on God’s wisdom and grace. Thanks for allowing us to express ourselves.

  • Anonymous

    March 27, 2019 at 8:10 pm

    I want to go back to when I wrote without pressure. Pressure to be good. I want to go back to my child days when I had no idea what it meant to be good or better than someone else. When I just knew how to BE. When writing was free and good simply because I could do it.

  • Anonymous

    March 28, 2019 at 5:41 am

    Time! My goal this year is set aside 30 minutes each day for me-time. Time to do yoga, read, write, draw, anything that restores me and isn’t tied to obligations. The older I get, the more I realize how precious time is.

  • Anonymous

    March 28, 2019 at 7:50 am

    Being 73 brings much reflection on what I have lost and more importantly what I have gained!
    Agility, energy, being as quick and sharp as I used to be. Simply all to do with physical and mental realities of life!
    The key to this is acceptance! It’s simple!
    What I have gained is looking back on what I lost along the way! Appreciation of watching a bird, reading a poem, being totally engaged with another person being still. Living and enjoying being in the moment.
    So I do not look at it as what I have lost. I look at it as knowing that I lost these precious moments and making sure I do not loose them now.

  • Anonymous

    March 29, 2019 at 6:21 pm

    My sense of satisfaction with myself. A former employer discouraged me from doing what I thought was best for my students and ultimately I quit my job. I’ve been disappointed in myself since then and I’d like to find a way past this disappointment.