The Ponder Effect | What have WE lost that we would like to get back?
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What have WE lost that we would like to get back?

Our intention at Ponder Effect is not to be a political platform per se, but we would be remiss to focus exclusively on our individual selves and fail to consider broader questions about our community, culture, and collective humanity. These desperately require our attention and intention as well.

And so, let’s take the question of last week, which was intensely personal, and widen it. What have we lost over time that we would like to get back? The “we” could be in reference to a community in which we live or our country or the global community writ large. “Over time” could be in reference to the recent past or something far more distant.

Because we are a group of mixed ages, origins, and beliefs (among other things), we will undoubtedly bring a diversity of viewpoints to this question. How beneficial for all of us! Perhaps by participating in this very discussion, we can begin to recapture one of the things we seem to have lost, which is openness and respect for a diversity of opinion.

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8 Ponderings
  • Anonymous

    March 31, 2019 at 5:18 pm

    Oh man – while I think we have gained so much, we’ve also lost plenty of things. Top of mind include: decorum, consideration for others’ experiences before jumping to conclusions (or maybe that never was a “thing”?), thinking before we speak (or type, or tweet), and SINGULAR FOCUS. I long for the days when I could easily feel fully present and aware without the pull of so many nagging distractions.

  • Anonymous

    March 31, 2019 at 5:27 pm

    Civility. Good manners. Care and concern for others.

  • Anonymous

    March 31, 2019 at 5:51 pm

    More personal connections. Less “stuff” to do. More time talking and being with others without distractions. Definitely the ability to respect other people’s views if they aren’t yours. Respectful conversation.

  • Anonymous

    April 1, 2019 at 8:53 am

    In our country currently we have lost many of our democratic ways of thinking and process, for example “all men are created equal…we all have inalienable rights”. This country would not be what it is today without immigrants and the wars they fought for our individual and collective freedoms. We need truth and due process of law to return to our leadership along with separation of church and state.

  • Anonymous

    April 3, 2019 at 1:04 pm

    We have lost accountability for what we say to each other. Anonymity online is a catastrophic part of human evolution.

  • Varina Willse

    April 3, 2019 at 6:54 pm

    I think in some fundamental way we have lost faith. First, literally. Rather than freedom of religion, we seem to have arrived at freedom FROM religion. That decline of faith in God could explain these other losses–of civility, of care and concern for others. We have also lost faith in our government, in our leaders, in the media, maybe even in the system as a whole. The rise of socialist policies is reflective of that last one. That loss of faith breeds fear and anxiety, which takes down civility and decorum in its angry wake. How do we collectively regain our faith? Maybe as long as we continue to hope, we are within reach of it.

  • Anonymous

    April 3, 2019 at 10:04 pm

    Civility in our personal interactions and in public spaces.
    A sense of pride in being an American and a belief that we are all united for the good of our country.
    Respect for others. All others. Respect for oneself.
    The understanding that you have to work for what you want.
    Dating that meant getting to know someone.
    Prayer in schools.

  • Anonymous

    April 4, 2019 at 4:15 pm

    We have lost maturity and wisdom; true adulthood; purposed concern for our neighbor while being self responsible and choosing to be responsible for others. Thus we have lost integrity, dignity and compassion that so enhances the quality of our lives. I cringe at the name calling and vengeful actions focused on destroying the positions, and reputations of those targeted irregardless of the truth. Sadly, such immaturity is publicly modeled in politics, media press, reality programs…