What is good in your life?
In the book I am reading, a mother surprises her grown daughter with this question. The daughter is in an unhappy marriage, and it won’t stop raining. Day after day, cold rain, inside and outside. We’ve all—every single one of us—been there. Are there. The circumstances and reasons vary, the suffering does not.
The temptation toward self-pity is strong. Judging from our experiences as and with children, we seem to come by it naturally. It occurs to me that perhaps the lifelong process of becoming wise is in part the lifelong process of relinquishing self-pity. It’s just so delicious to feel sorry for ourselves, though. The question we often seek, and one that this fictional mother easily could have posed, is What’s wrong? It’s a valuable question. We need to air what ails us. Until we don’t, because it no longer serves us.
Let’s try giving our overactive brains an assignment this week. When we start churning through our standard hamster wheel of worry or frustration or self-pity…while we’re driving or emptying the dishwasher or listening to a colleague drone on or studying for a test or caring for a loved one or waiting for results or wishing for something different…let’s instead name something good, however tiny or tremendous. Let’s keep a running list in our minds, in our journals, and here so that we can inspire and uplift one another.
There are crummy things in your life, I know. What is good?